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You Can Forgive
When we think about forgiveness we often think of something we confer on others- I forgive you. In truth we cannot forgive others without understanding our difficulties in forgiving ourselves. When we deepen our understanding of human nature our view of the world and ourselves widens. From this perspective we discover forgiveness for ourselves and others. Forgiveness is an unfolding process rather than an act that is completed and set aside. Forgiveness comes slowly, as we continue to learn from the tragedies and traumas of the past in a continual effort to transcend them and return to a positive view of ourselves. With time, determination and effort we move forward, understanding the past rather than endlessly repeating it. Perception Our perceptions are limited by our experiences and our interpretations of our experiences. Most people who cannot forgive themselves have developed a critical self-voice that holds them to unrealistic expectations. If you have been criticized, ignored or shown little compassion in your life you likely learn to blame yourself excessively for mistakes and errors in judgment. In reality these temporary flaws simply point to your humanness. On the other hand, people who have grown up with much empathy and understanding forgive themselves quite easily when they make mistakes of small magnitude, because that is the response they received from loving parents or other influential authorities. Criticizing vs. Understanding Every time we demean another person for their imperfections we re-visit the times the same behavior was done to us. By repeating this behavior we unfairly punish others for the lack of understanding we received, and in this process we cement our inability to free ourselves and treat others kindly. In order to forgive yourself you have to turn inwardly and begin to understand how you came to be so hard on yourself. Instead of blaming yourself for human errors it is necessary to realize that no child is born with a critical self-voice. The environment you were exposed to created your demeaning voice, and now it is time to seek a more accurate view of yourself. Forgiveness arises through the hard work of empathy. Seeking to understand, opening our minds and our hearts to what was once hidden from view, we see a view of our self we could not see before, and in that widened perspective, we see others with the same empathy and open mindedness as we now see our self. Transformation The change from a critical self-voice to an understanding self-voice is a transformation of the highest proportions. Kindness toward others is much easier than kindness toward oneself. When your internal voice is reasonable and fair your heart opens up to the world, we move outward from self toward others. This new understanding allows us to feel closer to those we previously judged, a defense used in order to create protective distance. We no longer need to be harsh toward others to shield ourselves. Forgiveness is the ultimate act of connectedness. In forgiving yourself you forgive others and are far less critical internally and externally. The world then becomes a kinder, warmer place. Forgiveness now signifies freedom-releasing resentment, bitterness and pride-allowing us to live with ease within, and to love others with uncritical affection. Arthur P. Ciaramicoli, Ed.D., Ph.D. is a Hopkinton resident Reprinted with permission from Soundmindz.org |
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"Ward, have you seen the beaver?" December 22, 2013 — The neighborhood between Clinton Street and South Mill Street have been overrun with beavers, many of which have been removed. This split trunk on Clinton Street displays the ingenuity of "nature's engineers" in that each has been cut to fall in a different direction. The looseness of the shavings makes it appear to be a very fresh cut, but the unfinished work gives rise to the question of the animals' whereabouts and the possibility that the work was interrupted. |
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Only in Woodville
December 21, 2013 — This may not be Woodville
technically, but this crèche
is on land that borders Lake Whitehall, keeping the
sheep warm and sheltered from the wind.
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Whitehall Brook December 21, 2013 — This bridge over Whitehall Brook looks great any time of year, an anachronistic structure that may not be good to walk on. |
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Ashley Bishop and Matthew Cosmo
BAY HARBOR, MI –Ashley Bishop and 2nd Lt. Matthew Stephen Cosmo were united in marriage on Saturday, September 7, 2013, in a late afternoon ceremony at Bay Harbor Resort on the shore of Lake Michigan overlooking beautiful Little Traverse Bay.
The bride is the daughter of Winifred Duff Bishop of Clio, MI and Max Bishop of Batesville, Arkansas. The groom is the son of Larry and Mariann Cosmo of Hopkinton, MA. The bride was given in marriage by her parents and escorted by her father.
Ms. Sarah Watkins, cousin of the bride and Alyssa Carpenter, best friend of the bride served as co-matrons of honor. Bridesmaids included Christa Cosmo, sister of the groom, and friends of the bride Alicia Commet, Jessica Huddlestun, Julie Warren, and Karris Roth.
Thomas Cosmo, brother of the groom, and Conner Fitzpatrick of Hopkinton, served as co-best men. Groomsmen included Michael Peirce of Hopkinton, 2nd Lt. Colin Matson of Sutton, MA, 2nd Lt. Brendan Donovan of Nahant, MA, 2ndLt. Kyle Rasmussen of San Antonio, TX, and Cadet 2nd Class Gregg Hutto of Colorado Springs, CO. Ushers included Andrew Fabricant, Eric Docknevich and Sean Donahue, all of Hopkinton, and Brandon Anderson, Scott Estis and Kyle Estis, cousins of the bride.
The bride attended Grand Valley State University in Grand Rapids, MI for two years and is currently in her junior year at Midwestern State University in Wichita Falls, TX pursuing a degree in social services.
The groom graduated with honors from the U.S. Air Force Academy in Colorado Springs, CO and earned his commission as a 2nd Lieutenant in May 2013. He is currently stationed at Sheppard Air Force Base in Wichita Falls, TX for pilot training as part of the Euro-NATO Joint Jet Pilot Training (ENJJPT) program.
The couple honeymooned in St. Lucia, and lives on base in Wichita Falls. |
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WOBURN–
An Ashland Police Officer has been indicted by a
Middlesex County Grand Jury in
connection with the destruction of evidence and conduct
that he engaged in subsequent to that,
Middlesex District Attorney Marian Ryan informed the
public today.
Edward Pomponio, 50, was
indicted on charges of wanton destruction of evidence
and obstruction of justice (two counts).
An arraignment date has not yet
been set.
“With these
charges, we allege that this defendant, a police
officer, discarded key drug evidence in a pending
criminal case and then tried to intimidate another
officer from reporting it,” District Attorney Ryan said.
“These are troubling allegations that reflect a
violation of the public trust placed in all law
enforcement officials.”
Pomponio, who served as the police
department’s evidence officer in July 2011, is alleged
to have thrown out critical evidence in an open and
active criminal case involving drug charges.
Without this evidence, the case could not proceed and
had to be dismissed. Following that, he is alleged to
have tried to intimidate the officer who had the case
from reporting the evidence tampering to officials who
would investigate.
These charges are allegations and
the defendant is presumed innocent until proven guilty.
The prosecutor assigned to this case is Assistant District Attorney Christopher Tarrant of the District Attorney’s Public Protection, Anti-Terrorism, Corruption and Technology (PACT) Unit. |
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Updated Friday, December 20, 2013 Summary The Hopkinton Police were involved in the following incidents, which are not included in the detail report below. 7 Times the Police assisted the Fire Department, another department, town, or outside Police agency. 6 Motor Vehicle/Person/Home Checks. 1 Disabled Motor Vehicle.
Incident Log Thursday, December 19, 2013 10:08 pm A 911 caller reported an erratic tractor trailer unit on Hayden Rowe Street. Officer Matthew McNeil responded and spoke with the operator who stated that he was lost. 6:18 pm A motorist reported that a large box truck was parked in the middle of Parker Point Road. Officer Peter Booth spoke with a contractor and advised him to move the vehicle. 5:35 pm A caller reported a hit and run motor vehicle accident on Cedar Street. Officer Matthew McNeil responded and took a report. 5:10 pm A caller reported an erratic operator on Ash Street. Officer Matthew McNeil responded and checked the area with a negative find on the vehicle. 2:39 pm A motorist reported that the operator of a motor vehicle almost caused an accident on West Main Street while texting. Officer Thomas Griffin responded and spoke with the operator. 12:02 pm A 911 caller reported a motor vehicle accident with personal injury on West Main Street. 2:21 am Officer John Moran checked a motor vehicle on Lyford Road and issued two criminal applications for minors in possession of alcohol.
Wednesday, December 18, 2013 5:36 pm A caller reported that a RV was parked on Hayward Street making the road impassable. Officer Aaron O'Neil responded but the vehicle was gone upon his arrival. 9:19 am Officer Patrick O'Brien assisted the Fire Department with a truck that was on fire on Lumber Street. 9:01 am Five officers assisted the Fire Department with a report of an odor of natural gas inside an Ash Street building. A Wilson Street facility was found to not be venting. 8:33 am A resident of Ash Street reported that a van was blocking her driveway. Officer Gregg DeBoer responded and advised that the operator moved it. |
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Three-Hundred Years in the
Making December 20, 2013 — Inspired by
a similar gesture by the 100th celebration of the
Boston Marathon, a member of the Friends of the
300th Anniversary Celebration suggested that they do
the same thing and offer a wine just for the
occasion, Hopkinton's 300th birthday. |
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Northampton
Traffic Stop Leads to Heroin Trafficking Arrest
December
20, 2013 — Early this morning, Trooper Joseph Petty was
on a traffic stop of Route 91 in Northampton when a
vehicle passed by him. Trooper Petty observed
several violations. Trooper Petty stopped the
vehicle a short time later in the Town of Hatfield.
Trooper Petty made contact with the operator who was not
properly licensed to drive the car. Trooper Petty also
spoke to the passengers. During the stop, evidence of
illegal narcotics led to a request for a State Police
K9. Trooper David Stucenski and K9 Frankie located 1,250
individual bags of heroin in the vehicle. Four people
were taken into custody and charged with the following: Operator TYLER ROBENSTEIN, 23,
of Colchester, Vermont: Trafficking in Heroin,
conspiracy to violate the drugs laws, possession to
distribute a Class A substance, speeding, unlicensed
operation of a motor vehicle and failure to change lanes
for an emergency vehicle. Passenger MARQUESE JONES,22,
of Newark New Jersey: Trafficking in Heroin, conspiracy
to violate the drugs laws and possession to distribute a
Class A substance. Passenger ASHLEY BEAULIEU,21,
of Colchester, Vermont: Trafficking in Heroin,
conspiracy to violate the drugs laws, possession to
distribute a Class A substance. Passenger SHEROD GREEN,21, of
Newark New Jersey: Trafficking in Heroin, conspiracy to
violate the drugs laws, possession to distribute a Class
A substance. All four were held until their
expected appearance in Northampton District Court. |
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Abbie Benford, 15
Abbie
Benford, 15, of Hopkinton, passed away
due to an anaphylactic reaction
on Wednesday, December 18, 2013 at Boston Children‘s
Hospital. Born in Alexandria, VA, she
was the daughter of Amy (Brill) Benford and Stephen
Benford of Hopkinton. |
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CHECKING YOUR LIST? • Tree • Presents • Dinner • Singing, Dancing Moose If you've checked everything but the moose, see the video below and give it thought. You could be the only family in Hopkinton with one! |
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Sharing the Holiday Spirit
Student fundraiser nets $1500 for
local rehab facility in honor of Fay alumna
December 19, 2013 — A group of
Fay students have continued a ten-year holiday tradition
of raising money for good causes through a candy cane
drive—and this year’s gift has a particularly meaningful
and personal connection to the Fay community. The Upper School students in
Billy Claire’s and Deb Smith’s advisory group will be
presenting a check for $1500 to Spaulding Rehabilitation
in Cambridge, Massachusetts, a hospital specializing in
rehabilitative medicine and inpatient and outpatient
care. The gift is in honor of Aubrey
Baumbach ’09, a Fay graduate who was critically injured
in a hit-and-run accident earlier this fall during her
freshman year at Lafayette College. After initial
treatment in Pennsylvania, Aubrey has been transferred
to Spaulding-Cambridge, where she is continuing her
recovery. After learning of Aubrey’s
story and the Fay students’ fundraising plan, the
Concord real estate firm of Barrett Sotheby’s generously
offered to purchase 1200 candy canes, making it possible
for the students to dedicate nearly every penny of their
proceeds to Spaulding. When the students in Billy and
Deb’s advisory group introduced the candy cane drive to
the Fay community, the response was overwhelming.
Students, faculty, and staff all eagerly purchased the
candy cane greetings, which sold for $1 apiece. They
knew that not only were they helping to make a
difference in lives of the many people who come to
Spaulding, but that their contributions were also a show
of support for Aubrey and her family as she continues to
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UPTON PD Press Release on Chemical Spill
On Wednesday, December 18th at approximately
2:36PM Upton Public Safety Departments were notified by
the Grafton & Upton Railroad, located at 25 Maple
Avenue, of a chemical spill. Rail yard employees on
scene reported a faulty valve on a transloading cart
caused approximately 100 gallons of Styrene to be
spilled. The transloading area of the rail yard is
equipped with an impervious ground cover which contained
the spill to an isolated area. Using the appropriate
Hazmat guidelines, Fire Chief Goodale immediately
isolated and evacuated an area surrounding the spill
site to a distance of 150 feet. The evacuation area did
not include any nearby homes or businesses. The
Massachusetts Department of Fire Services Hazardous
Materials Team and Department of Environmental
Protection were dispatched to the scene to provide
assistance.
The chemical Styrene is commonly used to produce
Styrofoam and other plastic products. The chemical is
highly flammable and has a fairly low flash point.
Fortunately, the current cold weather conditions greatly
reduced the dangers of ignition. The Massachusetts
Department of Environmental Protection, Hazmat officials
and Upton Public Safety Officials are monitoring the
cleanup and removal of the spilled material by Clean
Harbors. The site will continue to be monitored over the
next several days. The Upton Fire Department received
assistance at the scene from area departments including;
Hopedale Fire, Grafton Fire and Hopkinton Fire.
Representatives from the Grafton & Upton Railroad
remained on scene throughout the incident. Doug Pizzi,
spokesperson for the GU Railroad released the following
statement; “The Grafton and Upton Railroad has planned
and trained for rare situations like this and railroad
personnel followed procedures to the letter.” “The
railroad also greatly appreciates the professionalism of
everyone who responded to the spill” said Pizzi.
During the cleanup and mitigation process a mild odor of Styrene may be detected near the site |
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Chemical Spill in Upton at Grafton/Upton Railroad
From Upton PD Facebook, and scanner reports: Upton PD assisting FD at 25 Maple Avenue, Grafton/Upton Rail Yard, for a minor chemical spill. Hazmat regulations call for a 150' evacuation from the spill site. Currently no homes or businesses are within the evacuation zone.
The spill was of 100 gallons of styrene, which is used in the manufacture of synthetic rubber, according to a dispatch from Upton Police Department.
Hopkinton Chief Ken Clark also on scene. File photo.
Below, part of the cordoned off scene at the Grafton-Upton RR at 7:00 pm
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Updated Wednesday, December 18, 2013 Summary The Hopkinton Police were involved in the following incidents, which are not included in the detail report below. 4 Times the Police assisted the Fire Department, another department, town, or outside Police agency. 2 Motor Vehicle/Person/Home Checks. 4 Motor Vehicle Accidents without personal injury. 11 Disabled Motor Vehicles.
1 Time the Police assisted with an Animal Call. Arrest Log Monday, December 16, 2013
8:14 pm Officer
Aaron O'Neil arrested Ximena Baca, 52, of Sanctuary
Lane, Hopkinton, on Sanctuary Lane and charged her
with OUI Liquor. Incident Log Tuesday, December 17, 2013 10:16 pm A resident of Lorigan Road reported that a male party was banging on her door but would not say what he wanted. Sgt. Michael Sutton checked residence and the surrounding area but could not locate the individual. 10:13 pm Officer William Burchard assisted the Southborough Police Department with a domestic disturbance at a residence on Atwood Street. 9:50 pm A caller reported a broken utility pole on West Elm Street that was probably sheared off by a plow. Two officers responded to set up road barricades. 9:10 pm A caller reported that a vehicle was left partly in the roadway on Aikens Road. Officer William Burchard responded but was unable to locate the owner. 8:14 pm A caller reported that a green Honda drove around a plow operator on Main Street and was giving him a hard time. Officer Peter Booth responded and advised that the vehicle was gone upon his arrival. 6:05 pm There were multiple calls for bad road conditions on Cedar Street due to the snow. The DPW was notified. 3:55 pm A constable reported that he was doing a paper serve at a Twin Island Road residence and stated that no one was home and the front door was wide open with fresh footprints in the snow. Officer Aaron O'Neil responded and spoke with a neighbor who stated that the house was abandon with no occupants. 5:46 am A caller reported slippery road conditions at both ends of Front Street. The Highway Department was advised.
12:01 am Officer
Jacob Campbell assisted the Fire Department with a
car fire on Route 495. Monday, December 16, 2013 11:27 pm Officer Linda Higgins assisted the Southborough Police Department with an arrest. 10:13 pm A North Mill Street resident reported that a person dressed in all black and carrying a flash light was acting suspicious. When encountered the individual ran away. Officer Gregg DeBoer checked the area with a negative find on anything suspicious. 7:32 pm A 911 caller reported that an erratic operator had their vehicle's lights off and was bouncing off of snow banks on Sanctuary Lane. Officer Aaron O'Neil stopped the motor vehicle and subsequently arrested a 52 year-old female from Hopkinton and charged her with OUI Liquor. 7:36 am A 911 caller reported a hit and run motor vehicle accident on Granite Street. Officer Patrick O'Brien responded and took a report. |
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Cat Will Not Last Long December 18, 2013 — Avril is enjoying her stay at the Black Cat Inn at Healthy Paws Veterinarian Center following her spay surgery. She is up-to-date on her shots and is ready for adoption through the MetroWest Humane Society. Her beautiful eyes and regal face mean that she won't be there for very long. |
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